For more resources and ideas to help you with your parenting, have a look at this website: https://www.skip.org.nz/

There are also some excellent training resources on this site – they do require purchasing: https://www.gottman.com/parents/

For help give yourself permission to hold realistic expectations of your parenting have a look at this TED talk:

https://optionb.org/build-resilience/video/how-to-raise-successful-kids-without-overparenting

This TED talk is also a nice reminder to learn from our children as well as to parent them:

https://www.ted.com/talks/adora_svitak